Romantic movies and novels have created an illusion about relationships that are fictitious. Pretend stories filled with pretend people living pretend lives that have little to do with reality.
Children are not small adults. Your child does not think with a “grown up-adult brain. “ He lives in a completely different world, with different values, different interests, goals, motivation.
One day my oldest daughter called and upon hearing the panic in her voice, I immediately knew something was wrong. She proceeded to tell me how my two-year-old grandson was having “meltdowns” where he would become so angry that he would hit himself in the head with his fists.